Therapist for Anxious Attachment Style
Individual Therapy Online in Seattle and Kansas City
You want to feel taken care of and loved.
You feel things deeply and you care a lot, but your partner (and perhaps your family too) thinks it’s too much or that you’re too much. So you walk on eggshells trying to be acceptable, but holding in all of the emotions just makes it worse. You just want to feel understood. You want your partner ( and if we’re being honest, your parents too ) to listen, to show up, and to love you for you.
Can you relate?
You’re replaying that fight from last night in your mind. You can’t stop thinking about it. Did you say something wrong? What did they really mean when they said that?
You notice the shifts in your partner: the slight change in tone of their voice, the moment they check their phone rather than look at you, their desire to be alone or with others away from you. Are they mad at you? Did something happen? Are they longer interested in you?
Conflict scares you. You’re afraid your partner will see something in you they don’t like and want to leave. Perhaps they will think you’re too much. So when they need space, you spiral. You want to resolve the argument right away so you things can go back to normal.
you want to feel chosen by your partner
Why you need an Individual Therapist for Anxious Attachment
Most adults with anxious attachment style learned early on that love was conditional. That belonging and acceptance meant they had to act a certain way, take care of others, and make sure everyone else was okay and happy. Only then, could you feel at peace.
This helped you learn to read rooms, manage moods, and keep the connection.
Except now, you’re exhausted, unhappy, and your relationship is crumbling.
A lot of people try to work on this inside the relationship with couples therapy. They try to improve communication and connection. Those things are important, but anxious attachment isn't really about your partner. It's about a pattern that was ingrained in you from a very young age.
Individual therapy for anxious attachment style gives you a space that's entirely yours — to feel your feelings without judgement or fear of being left behind, to understand the pattern playing out on a deeper level, and to build a relationship with yourself that doesn't depend on anyone else staying close.
Individual therapy helps you show up more confidently and calm in your relationship so that it actually has a chance at thriving.
A Therapist for Anxious Attachment Style can help you…
Stop spiraling when your partner needs space and time alone
Express your true thoughts and opinions without worrying that your partner is going to get mad at you or leave
Feel more confident and steady in who you are so you’re not reeling every time your partner’s mood changes
Actually be able to sleep (without crying or getting irritated) when your partner doesn’t have the energy tonight to address the argument you just had
Stay connected to your wants and needs without deferring to your partner… even when your partner disagrees about what movie to watch or wants something else for dinner
Hi, I’m Brittany
I’m a therapist that specializes in anxious attachment style therapy and all that comes with it:
anxiety
stress and burnout
codependency
people pleasing
self-esteem
childhood trauma and emotional neglect (including relinquishment & adoption)
I help you shift from self-abandonment to self-loyalty so that you can feel confident and secure in your relationships as your authentic self.