Therapist for Anxious Attachment Style
Individual Therapy Online in Seattle and throughout Washington, Kansas & Missouri
You're not needy. But you've been made to feel that way.
You feel things deeply and you care a lot, but you’ve been told it’s too much or that you’re too much. So you walk on eggshells trying to be acceptable, but it’s annoying and hurtful because you just want to express yourself. You want to feel understood. You want your partner to want to listen, to want to hear you, and to love you for you.
Can you relate?
You’re replaying that fight from last night in your mind. You can’t stop thinking about it. Did you say something wrong? What did they really mean when they said that?
You notice the shifts in your partner: the slight change in tone of their voice, the moment they check their phone rather than look at you, their desire to be alone or with others away from you. Are they mad at you? Did something happen? Are they longer interested in you?
Conflict scares you. You’re afraid your partner will see something in you they don’t like and want to leave. Perhaps they will think you’re too much. So when they need space, you spiral. You want to resolve the argument right away so you things can go back to normal.
you want to feel chosen by your partner
Why you need an Individual Therapist for Anxious Attachment
Most adults with anxious attachment style learned early on that love was conditional. That belonging and acceptance meant they had to act a certain way, take care of others, and make sure everyone else was okay and happy. Only then, could you feel at peace.
This helped you learn to read rooms, manage moods, and keep the connection.
Except now, you’re exhausted, unhappy, and your relationship is crumbling.
A lot of people try to work on this inside the relationship with couples therapy. They try to improve communication and connection. Those things are important, but anxious attachment isn't really about your partner. It's about a pattern that was ingrained in you from a very young age.
Individual therapy for anxious attachment style gives you a space that's entirely yours — to feel your feelings without judgement or fear of being left behind, to understand the pattern playing out on a deeper level, and to build a relationship with yourself that doesn't depend on anyone else staying close.
Individual therapy helps you show up more confidently and calm in your relationship so that it actually has a chance at thriving.
Hi, I’m Brittany
I’m a therapist that specializes in anxious attachment style therapy and all that comes with it:
anxiety
stress and burnout
codependency
people pleasing
self-esteem
childhood trauma and emotional neglect (including relinquishment & adoption)
I help you shift from self-abandonment to self-loyalty so that you can feel confident and secure in your relationships as your authentic self.